Mother Refused To Pay For Dinner Of Daughter's 30 Year Old Boyfriend

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    Font - I'm a mother of a 24 year old daughter "Christine", Christine moved back to our hometown after obtaining her college degree and met her current boyfriend Simon (30). I'm not a big fan of Simon but we're civil enough to be around each other.
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    Font - The other day I called Christine to invite her for lunch and she agreed to come. Unbeknowest to me, she brought Simon with her. I was slightly bothered but only since I was looking for an ordinary mother-daughter lunch to catch up with
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    Font - stuff. I welcomed her and Simon and as far as ordering food, I ordered the usual for Christine but Simon went over the menu and picked many stuff, including a drink. Now this didn't bother me because I figured that he would be paying for this stuff but apparently, this was not the case.
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    Font - The bill came and I told Simon and Christine that I was only paying for myself and Christine, Simon asked why was that and I told him because I didn't invite him. He let out a loud "come on now! What?"
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    Font - And Christine asked if I was serious. I told her yes because I only invited her, didn't I? She said that I was being rude and unwelcoming to Simon after he took the time to drop what he was doing and come join us but I frankly told her this wasn't what I planned. She got offended and said
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    Font - they're both one and I should either pay for both of them or not pay at all, I told her this was not fair to both her and I but she said no this was unfair to !Simon!. I asked if he had money to pay and he shook his head "no". I apologized and still stuck to paying for myself and Christine
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    Font - but she refused to let me, saying I either pay for both or not pay at all. I asked if that is what she really wanted and she noded. I said okay then, Paid for myself and left. Clearly Christine had no money as well and they had to wait for a friend to pay for them at the restaurant and
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    Font - Christine was upset about that, she called me and said that I not only disrespected simon and made him feel unwelcome, but I also bailed on them by only paying for myself and leaving them stuck in a horrible situation begging a friend for help. She said she's hurt, Simon's hurt and they expect an apology and the money their friend paid since it's a debt they need to return now. I told her it was her
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    Font - doing for bringing uninvited person with her then insisting that I pay fot them both or not pay at all. She argued that I was trying to avoid responsibility and should make it up to them if I care about our relationship but I said it won't happen because I don't owe them anything.
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    Human body - Things got worse between us, now I'm thinking I might have caused this by not paying for both of them. AITA?
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    Font - NancyNegativo ·4 hr. ago NTA. Stick to your guns. He was unwelcome because he wasn't invited. Who doesn't bring their wallet when they weren't even invited? 7.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Electrical-Date-3951 · 3 hr. ago Even IF he was a welcome addition, it is rude AF to just expect and then demand that someone pay for your food. These two people are too old for these antics, and both sound like moochers who need to grow up.
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    Font - 343427229486267 · 3 hr. ago Partassipant [2] Exactly. If they were 14 or so, I could understand the daughter and boyfriend's position, but this behavior is ridiculous. I am not sure OP did the 'right thing' when it comes to ensuring a good relationship with her daughter (and not saying I am sure she didn't, either). But they were definitely being the assholes here, and OP is entirely in her right do do as she did.

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